Flying Toaster Oven

I’m sure we all know those people that just make one bad decision after another.  These are the same folks that just blow it when it comes to good luck or what have you.  They are also in denial about themselves.   

You can also run across some very intelligent ones that again, make bad decisions.  Life is always full of drama and there are always issues every day whether at work, home or socially.   These are the people with just a higher ratio of problems than normal.  Sometimes we’re fooled into thinking they got a bad hand and then we realize, it’s just not possible for one person to have this much bad luck. 

When you try to discuss logically with these people, it’s a losing battle.  They already are know it alls.  They also just dont get why these things happen to them or why they’re treated a certain way.   

I’m learning the hard way.  Here I am trying to help because most of these folks are not bad people.  They need help but I can’t give it to them.  They need a tongue lashing or maybe even harder luck to wake them up.

Anyway, this is my newest approach with these folks.  Forget about it.  There are people that need AND want to be helped.  There are people that actually will take your advice rather than change the subject and distract you with other questions.

In the end, if you try too hard to help these folks, they’ll resent you.  Then if you decide to cut ties, they’ll retaliate. 

I’ve had to confront one or two and let me tell you, it’s not easy since these folks dont want to listen, period.

so i have this coworker who gets on my nerves.  Lemme explain.  She is constantly checking out what i”m wearing on a daily basis.  If we happen to chitchat, she’ll rave about something I’m wearing and will immediately tell me, “I’m going to get that or I’m going to buy that too. Where did you get it?”  Ok, now I know this doesnt happen with guys so maybe you can’t relate, so i have to wonder that if the women can relate, question is, is this coworker doing this on purpose to annoy me?  Or does she admire my taste and I should be flattered.  Or is she just so cluelessly without any fashion sense.    Rewind to a few weeks back when she was raving about my sweater.  Fast forward  a few weeks later and I notice she’s wearing something so similar.  I commented on it and she downplayed it like she had owned this sweater for a while.   I dont want to get into petty things but this is strange.  Subsequently, each time we talk, again she tells me she’s going to buy the same items that I’m wearing.

I keep thinking maybe I’m being too sensitive and therefore, need to run it by a close one, spouse/good friend.   Every time I get into an argument with my mother, i notice that I have to run it by my husband just to make sure I’m not overly sensitive .   My mother doesnt understand boundaries.  To top it off, she’s very self centered.  Not to mention a martyr.  Oh, did I bring up a dramatist too?  So although on the outside, she seems caring and goes the extra mile to help, it’s really all about her.   I ‘m tired of being reprimanded and chided as though I’m still a teenager. Mind you, I was a good kid staying out of trouble but the way I was treated, you would think I was a rebellious teen.    I need to add that I was never rebellious but I did get so fed up with her constant chiding and harsh words.   I really cringe to this day when hubby even goes there or if i hear an adult being very critical towards their children.  i mean I have to stop myself when I know I’m about to snap or if I know i’m going down that road.  Sometimes, I get so upset at my mother that I swear I’ll never speak with her again but then it just keeps happening like a vicious cycle. 
There are so many words that need to be spoken but at this point, why bother?  My mother will have a conniption which will last hours.  And the strangest thing is, I’m the nicer of the kids.  Seriously, I stayed out of trouble, married a nice man and am fiscally responsible but no, not good enough.   Not enough drama in my life to keep her involved.

So a part of me feels guilty for not visiting home but time after time, I’m disappointed and underwhelmed by my parents.  Their reaction to normal occurrences just doesnt make sense.  I feel less like them and again, I try my best with all the right intentions but it never works out.  All my plans just never come into fruition.  Somehow they ruin a good time with the wrong comment.

I see just about everyone jumping on the bandwagon for the newest gadget.  I dont even know the names of these.  This gets me thinking that people have wads of cash and can afford to keep upgrading their cellies, tvs, cars, etc.  Now, I know I’m doing ok but to stay on top of all this is asking for too much.  I know for a fact that I was probably the last of my friends to even get a cell phone.  It’s not about trying to look cool or do what everyone else is doing.  It’s more about freedom for me.  Not having to answer (literally) to anyone.  I figure, hey I never waited by the phone for anyone, so why would i need to have a cell phone. 

Plus, I’m one of the people that likes to drive on their own and meet up with friends.  That way, i can leave when I want to and not rely on someone for a ride. 

That said, I realize it’s either pure laziness or just not wanting to follow the pack.   Or both.  Or it’s out of pure economic practicality.  It’s not economically feasible for anyone to keep upgrading electronics.  Once obsolete, these items fill up our landfills and not enough are being recycled. 

So with everyone talking about the ipad like they know what they’re talking about.  I, for one, couldnt finagle an intelligible conversation about the ipad or any other new techie gadget to speak of. 

I do try my best in other ways though.  Consider this blog, my social networking through FB, etc.   I think, is it necessary for me to be checking my iphone while I’m running errands or shopping “? 

Maybe I’ll just wait until technology improves even further and prices go down.